Assertiveness requires courage for it to be the preferred style of communication. More than likely, there are situations or specific relationships in which assertiveness comes naturally.
But are there people who are able to repeatedly push your buttons? Do you find yourself shutting down in certain situations? What happens if you come across someone who unexpectedly triggers your anxiety, shame, or feelings of helplessness?
In spite of much healing of past trauma, some people or situations maintain the power to push the buttons of residual issues.For instance, I find it difficult to be around particular people as long as I am expected to be someone I am not. I am not someone who fills every waking hour with activities or visitations. I like my down time. I need a certain amount of alone time to take care of myself. Continue reading